Investing In Securities, Not Insecurities!

What would life look like if we went through our days collecting “securities” rather than “insecurities?” What would life feel like if we built our self worth from inside-out rather than outside-in?

The concept of “Self Worth” is based on the importance of the view of the “Self” yet most of us go through life half asleep as to our true being and power, and instead focus on how others define our “Worth.” It’s time to wake up and to take ownership of our intrinsic value and define our own sense of Self.

I’ve been a fan of Jennifer Anniston’s since the first time I saw an episode of  “Friends.” I was hooked. She was likeable. She was friendly. She was a little kooky. She was beautiful –  but not too beautiful – more girl next door adorable. She was relatable.

I caught an interview with Jennifer some time ago. She was talking about a painful childhood experience that she carried with her into adulthood. In Variety Magazine, Jennifer shared about being told something negative about herself at a young age, “I remember a parental figure saying to me around the rather critical age of 11, after a dinner party, that I was excused from the table because I didn’t have anything interesting to add to the conversation.” She goes on to say, “Ouch. It stuck to me, it stuck to me like painfully worded sentences and, if I’m being honest – and I’m being honest because I’m 50 and that comes with the territory – I carried that sentence with me into adulthood.”

Jennifer went on to talk about her experience being on “Friends” and how, for the first time in her life, this show began helping her see herself in a new light.

That made me think about the similarities in my life. You see, I’m in a show like “Friends” too! It’s called Forever Fierce: Midlife Matters … and it morphed into our blossoming local community, Ageless in Seattle. Those negative comments made me think about our community and how it’s designed to empower, celebrate, and support women. We’re the Tribe With the Kind Vibe! It made me think of all the mean things people say to us about us that seem to “stick like glue.” We tend to let go of the kind comments, laugh them off in our female, self deprecating way, while we hold onto the negative comments like badges of honor.

It made me think about what a beautiful world it would be if we went around collecting “securities” instead of “insecurities.” It made me think of all the decades we spend collecting those insecurities, allowing them to damage our Self Worth.

What would life be like if we didn’t have to spend decades “peeling the layers” we’ve built around us if we didn’t spend so much time building those darn  layers in the first place.

How many of us are walking around with baggage – with a mind filled with “I Am Not’s” – many of those projected onto us by others, “stuck like glue,” damaging our Self Worth and holding us back in life? How about shouting to the rooftops “I Am Worthy!” Isn’t it time we shifted our focus from the negative to the positive? What makes you special? What makes you, YOU – the you that no one else can be?

It takes Moxie to let go of our baggage.

It takes Moxie to tell ourselves a new story.

It takes Moxie to see ourselves in a new light.

It takes Moxie to stand in that light! And shine!

Midlife is filled with Moxie Moments – moments in life when we choose differently – new thoughts, new friends, new experiences, new stories, new beliefs and a new mindset toward ourselves and our capability.

Moxie allows us to Rewire.

Moxie allows us to Inspire.

Moxie sets us Free.

The truth is we can see ourselves in a new light at any moment. It’s a choice. A choice to begin life anew, a life collecting securities over insecurities, a life of “I Am’s’” rather than “I Am Not’s.” You are your own champion. You’ll experience one of the most wonderful securities in the world: that someone will always be there for you, when the rain starts to fall.

When you begin saying “I Am” … that someone will be you!